For many people, the holiday season can be one of the trickiest times to hold true to our commitments around food. And that makes total sense- with Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Hanukkah, and the many family gatherings and parties that come along with that, it’s a time of year that’s understandably difficult for our relationship with food. Not to mention, for many of us there’s loneliness and other tricky feelings that come up this time of year that can turn us to food to cope. All this can have us forgetting what’s in our best interest and doubting our decisions around food. It’s at times like this that I often hear this question- “Do I have to do this forever?”
Talk about a question that will spike up fear! Simply the thought of forever brings us out of our wisdom and into a place of deprivation and scarcity. It’s a question that often leads us to feel overwhelmed and therefore abandon our best efforts to change.
Before you drop everything and run, consider these 2 things:
- You can’t possibly answer that question- and because I’m not a fortune teller, neither can I. Here’s a more useful question- “Do I choose to do this now?” While you are always in a relationship with food, you can choose how you want that relationship to look each and every day. You’re in the driver’s seat! We’ll worry about next week, next month, next year when that day comes!
- Instead of focusing on forever, try focusing on gratitude and connecting with others in the current moment. The “do I have to do this forever” question will have you running away from the actions that are in line with your values and goals- gratitude and community will only bring you closer to those things, and what’s best for your long-term interests.
So in the name of fostering the best and most loving relationship with food, stay out of the “forever trap.” Your relationship with food is not a forever death sentence, it’s an opportunity to feel empowered in living your best life.
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