Our culture may be coming around to support the idea of self-care, but boy have we been taught the opposite for a long time! For many people, doing more, being polite, saying yes to others, and ignoring our needs are norms, and are even idealized. So for many of us, learning how to think and act in loving ways towards ourselves can be a learning process.
But As Brene Brown says, self-love is courageous. It often feels easier at the moment to sacrifice our needs for others and say and do the things that other people want. To stick in our truth, advocate for ourselves, set limits, and ask for what we need, is truly sitting in discomfort- we have fear what if I disappoint my friend, what if they judge me, what if they think I’m rude. We are standing in our actions, essentially saying I believe I’m worth it.
Self-love also looks like self-forgiveness- saying I know I’m not perfect, and that’s okay. Let’s get comfortable in uncomfortable, in our mistakes, in our fallibility. If we can love the ugliest parts of ourselves, we can really start living our lives freely.
The journey to put self-love into action is hard- know that Team MC and the Beacon are here to help. We’re here rooting you on always.