Health and Wellness, | 04.30.21
Consistency is really the name of the game- our body loves and craves consistency.
If you ever took a Developmental Psychology class in college, you might know that kids really thrive on a consistent routine- like having set times for waking up, going to sleep, eating breakfast, going to school, and on and on. And guess what…we’re no different as adults.
So why are we so resistant to developing a routine? Maybe it’s because we know what it feels like to have too much control and structure. For example, if you’re ever been on a diet, you know that suffocating feeling of too many rules and too much deprivation. And that’s certainly not a life to live- when we live life within rigid parameters with no air to breathe is like being in a straight jacket. And most important, it just doesn’t work in the long term. It’s not a sustainable solution.
If this resistance to routine is something you can relate to, listen to this. Routine and ritual can be your best friend- your way to keep you away from the chaos of an unstructured and chaotic life.
The best part is, you have the power to rewrite your story about your dislike for routines. It doesn’t have to be a burden or feel depriving. Creating a ritual or routine can be something to eventually look forward to and to keep you awake and feeling secure. It can help you feel grounded, centered, and ready for the day. And of course, there will be some days we don’t look forward to doing these rituals, but truth be told, these are probably the days we need them the most.
Unsure of where to start? The first thing you can do is start by picking a point in your day that feels in need of some nurturing and attention.
Once you have picked a time of day, pick one of two things to use for your ritual. This could be reading a poem or prayer, stretching or going for a walk, meditating or breathing in silence, or even having a cup of coffee and reading the newspaper. If you’ve ever developed a morning routine before, you know how much you will eventually come to rely and depend on it to start your day. Sometimes this is the grounding our body needs to get the message of “I’m safe,” even in the most stressful of times.
And here’s the fun part- this ritual or routine is just for you. Yes, of course you can “steal” someone else’s saying, prayer, or practice to get you started, but over time this practice will become molded to what you need. The more you get familiar with and listen to what feels right for you, the more your morning, mid-day, or evening ritual will feel personalized and unique.
So no need to wait for the 1st of the month or a Monday to start your routine. Any time is a good time to put your intention towards creating ritual and grounding in your day. So why not make today the day?