I know that the idea of being on a “food plan” can feel restrictive or scary, almost as if you’re on another crash-and-burn diet. It can bring up those thoughts and emotions that protect us from the harm that’s diets have caused us in the past.
After all, restrictive dieting is very harmful and has long-lasting repercussions in our relationship with food and with ourselves. But if we’re not careful, our brain can lump together “structured eating” and “restrictive diet.” No wonder our brain is telling us “Red alert! Ditch the food plan!”
This makes so much sense, and also is so far from the truth. If you’re new at this and you don’t have a food foundation, our course it’s going to feel like a diet. You’re you’re anything like me, being in a relationship with sugar and flour was a bit like a free-for-all. Any sort of structure to your food plan is likely to feel a tad bit restrictive, and definitely not what you’re used to!
Also take comfort in knowing that the solution to compulsive overeating isn’t more unstructured eating. Would you tell your kid who has trouble completing his homework on time that he needs less structured time to do his work? Of course not! You’d say, “this is homework time” and “no watching TV or playing video games now.” The truth is we need healthy limits that serve us and protect us. While it can feel punishing at first, know that there’s nothing more loving than that.
So next time you feel fear and frustration about your food plan, tell yourself “of course I feel this way!” and still at the same time “this food plan is here to help me build loving habits with my food.” When we reframe our idea of a food plan- as a tool to build peaceful and sustainable habits- we can quiet the fear and get the ball rolling on finding true freedom!